Never mind the haters who accuse me of being mad, bad and an abuser, they are not people who were put in the terrible situation that I was, traumatized already, regressed and abused, told I had found my ‘God-sent family’ that I had prayed for, and left abandoned and abused and blamed, treated terribly by the police and left shunned in a small community where my abuser had the right connections, treated terribly by the Dean and Diocese and told all along that I was at fault.
Wouldn’t it send anyone mad? And on top of that, autism, poverty, terrible lodgings situations and not knowing who was connected to the abuser and thus meeting nasty surprises when looking for help.
Why was I put in that situation in the first place, when the Church knew enough to claim to have a chaperoning policy, but didn’t, obviously, because the man cuddled and touched me at church, with people around.
The Vicar and his wife allowed me to be taken home by this man, after he had often spent time alone with me, sailing and at his work’s warehouse, etc, and he was allowed to take me away from the church on walks as soon as he had met me, although while in church, the Vicar’s wife came over and the churchwarden said she was ‘coming to keep an eye on him’, he then took me away from church on a walk.
Basically the church let him do as he was doing, and he discussed me behind my back in a detrimental way with the Vicar and his wife, which prompted an angry – not abusive – letter in response.
But by then the Vicar and his wife, since I caught them out lying about New Wine, for which they didn’t apologize, and since I went to them on Air Display Day when the churchwarden was cuddling me and saying that people in church were talking about him and me, ignored me, but talked about me.
That incident on Air Display Day was one of many when the churchwarden would cuddle me and cheerfully tell me that people were talking about him and me. It always hurt me so much, and when I went to the Vicar and his wife, they did not tell me that this man was under a chaperoning policy, they did not say they were concerned, they said that it was usually a few people who were talking like this and they would deal with it.
Later the churchwarden said he had spoken to the Vicar and his wife and told them that everything was alright.
But it wasn’t and he was allowed to cover up for himself and his ‘punishing of me’ for what he was doing, but telling me people were talking.
It was emotionally harmful.
But basically, the Church allowed that situation to occur, where a man known for misconduct was allowed to create a situation where he could abuse me, and he was supported while he brought othewr people into the matter to build up a defence of condemnation against me.
It remains that nothing has been done by the Church about me being destroyed, for which Jane Fisher always blamed me, and nothing has been done by the Church about the Churchwarden.